An Empire of Woman

It has never been stress-free for women to juggle a flourishing career and a happy family life. This challenge is ever constant being a full-time working mom which comes with bouts of stress and guilt for not being able to give equal time to work and family.

Now it’s the 21st century and we as women from around the world are choosing to have 0ur empire — an idyllic family, a gratifying career and some seclusion to find some time for ourselves.

It’s been more than ten years that I’ve been working professionally and now I’m heading the marketing team at Foinix Media Division. Like so many other women, I’ve had my share of battles in striking the right work-life balance post marriage and family. My mentors would say that resilience is one of the greatest strengths of a woman, fueling my desire to stand my ground and stick to the following tips to manage work and family, which consists of a husband who travels for work around the world and two teenagers. Feel free to take leaf or two out of my book and stay on top of the things.

  1. Priorities need to be In Order.

The choice of being a successful working woman, it’s vital to have your priorities in order — both personal and professional. To figure out your responsibilities at various levels, ask yourself a few questions. Where or what will not be negotiated or is completely not to be compromised? Name responsibilities you must be phenomenal at and the ones that can be just well enough. Express what are the most-important responsibilities at work and those for family. Accomplishment on clear answers will help you select priorities, make modifications and decide what you are and are not willing to do.

2. Have a discussion, with your employer

It’s valuable to keep the communication lines open with your manager, HR, and superiors. Be completely honest and transparent. Imagine you can’t reach office on time because you have to drop your kid to school, they can possibly suggest a plan to keeping your work hours flexible. If that’s a problem, be prepared with alternate solutions that prevent your loss of performance and productivity.

3. Share the load

It’s OK in acknowledging that you can’t do everything on your own and a little help could ease your mammoth workload. By doing everything by yourself, you’re not only making your body exhausted but also preparing it for a breakdown later on. Decide what you task to yourself and what others can take care of. Seek help from coworkers, spouse, and family members. At home discuss with your spouse how you can divide tasks in such a way that either of you don’t with trepidation come home after a long working day at office.

4. The Check-in

Welcome Technology and the comfort in knowing the well-being and whereabouts of your loved ones is no longer a challenge. The entire empire of mothers who work for companies or themselves can easily stay connected with their children while they are working at office. If you’re missing your kids, you can make a phone call or even a video call during your lunch break and focus on work without any stress or tensions in the recesses of your mind. These little moments also comfort the child that you’re near and also helps you get through the chaos of day at work.

5. Urgent, Not Urgent, Important, Not Important.

As a working woman the building blocks to your success mean, every minute is crucial — at work and home. You would be astonished to know that distractions at workplace can cost you more than three hours a day. The determination to be focused and productive means it is essential to keep chatter with coworkers, casual internet surfing, smartphones, and other distractions out of your purview. Have specific time limits to address emails and phone usage. Do the same at home, avoid watching too much of TV and instead, spend time to strengthen your bond with your partner and kids.

6. Work is Work and Home is Home

After many years of working on my career I found it extremely hard to say NO to things that didn’t align with my priorities. I can honestly say Believe me, it is the biggest mantra to successfully juggle your personal and professional life. You need to set boundaries so that you can give your heart and soul to both the aspects of life. Work on a way to leave work at work, don’t come home with it. During the time you are spending with your kids and partner, don’t be on the phone sending emails or discussing work with coworkers. Know always and be mindful of your personal relationships and start saying no to things that aren’t doing any good to us.

7. You are your biggest Investment

It is so important for you to do what you actually love as this is the secret to maintain a perfect work-life balance. It’s definitely okay to think about yourself, have some leisure time and pamper yourself. Arrange time to go to a spa, get a massage, and watch recordings of your favorite TV series, read a book, travel solo, gym or just do nothing at all. Learning to take care of yourself is so vital because a balanced and enriched individual would be able to give the best to your family and your work.

It’s a balancing Act

In all my years of experience, I’ve realized that maintaining work-life balance requires constant adjustments, compromises, and sacrifices. It’s better to be prepared and learn to make the most of your time and energy. The more you know yourself and your priorities the more balanced your life would be.

Please feel free to add your suggestions to this article.

Author Bio

Alex Barlow is the Director and Founder of Apeiron Kallos (Pty) Ltd, Foinix Digital Media (Pty) Ltd, JDI (Pty) Ltd and has been one of the most recognized teachers and innovators in Asia in Education. Her articles are inspired by her life experiences, situations and work-related events. She likes to write about productivity, team building, work culture, leadership, entrepreneurship among others and contributing to woman worldwide who face the never ending challenges of growth and success is what she loves.